Updated: Feb 13, 2018
I have only been married for nearly three years now, but I started praying a long time ago that God would give me wisdom on how to be a godly wife. I have a deep passion for my marriage and I am so grateful that God sent my husband to me as a young woman. One of the big things he has taught me these past few years of marriage is the importance of being my husbands biggest supporter.
Proverbs 12:4 KJV “A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”
Proverbs 31:10-12 KJV “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
Whether my husband is starting his own business or training for a marathon, I want to be his biggest cheerleader. I want to be the wife that “does him good and not evil all the days of her life” and the wife that encourages him to be his best. Even when he experiences failure I want to let him know that he gave it his all and that I am proud of him, always.
God treats us that way. We fail Him and disobey Him yet He still love us, corrects us when we go astray, and is for us, always. He is always our biggest fan and I know that I have not always been a pleasant team player, yet He is still for me.
I often think about the Proverbs Thirty-one woman and instantly tell myself the lies that, “I will never be as good as her” or “She was perfect and never messed up". The truth is, she wasn’t perfect at all, but she trusted God and gave it her very best. She was passionate about her family and was specifically passionate about her ministry as a wife. I am sure when her husband came up with a crazy new business idea or decided he would take on more responsibilities than he could handle, she was nervous, unsure, and maybe even skeptical. But I am also sure she gently offered her opinion and he valued her opinion and concerns. Yet, she supported him no matter what he decided to do even if it seemed crazy to her and I bet sometimes her voice of reason even caused him to stop and think about what he was pursuing and if it was worth pursuing.
Some of her husbands ideas most likely failed and I know that my husband will experience failure sometimes as we all do. The one thing he won’t lose though, is my unwavering support and prayers. God gave wives such a unique opportunity to be a great strength to their husbands and a great encouragement. One of my favorite quotes says this, “Behind every great man is not a woman. She is beside him, she is with him, not behind him” (Unknown).
I certainly am learning something new about being a wife everyday. God will give us wisdom if only we ask Him for it. Marriage is such a fascinating blessing from God and He knew exactly what He was doing when he instituted marriage and the family in the beginning. I pray I will always treasure my marriage and that you will too!
What has God shown you in your marriage? How do you support and encourage your husband? I would love to hear from you!