My oldest is three and a half now. I can’t even begin to tell you how fast time has flown since she was born. Yesterday after the kids ate lunch I had them go lay down for a nap. While I hurriedly got ready to go run errands while they slept (husband was working from home), I felt pressed to take Emmeline with me instead of going kid-less. We have been clashing the past few days. Clashing like The Avengers and Thanos clashing or maybe worse. Emmeline and I have the same strong-willed personality which means we butt heads a whole lot. She’s a sassy three-year old so as you can imagine her behavior can be difficult to deal with at times. I teeter between not wanting to ever stifle her personality but still teaching her to have respect and obey. I have placed her in timeout and disciplined so much this week that I wanted to take her with me to reiterate the fact that even when she messes up, and I have to discipline her, I still love her endlessly.
Going to get moving boxes and cake pops doesn’t sound like a grand day-date but she loved it. I hope it spoke volumes to her little heart. Did I need a break? Absolutely! I needed her to know without a doubt though, that no matter what she does I’ll still love her unconditionally. God doesn’t push us away when we throw tantrums and act like grown babies. He disciplines us all while loving us unconditionally.
I was reminded of Hebrews 12:6-7
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?”
Chastening by definition means, “To reprimand.” God reprimands us, His children, as we reprimand our kids. I think we sometimes forget that although God corrects us, (because He wants us to grow in Him) His love for us never changes. It’s not easy to be corrected. I know God has revealed areas of my heart that need His help. It’s uncomfortable. It is also uncomfortable to reprimand my children at times when they seem so defiant. Or when it would be easier to let it go when I am exhausted but know that they need to be trained.
I want to be diligent at training my children. If they need to be reprimanded then I want to bravely do so even when it is incredibly difficult. The tantrums and the long days of timeout get the best of me sometimes. If you find yourself in this same space, I pray that you will bravely walk forward as you raise your babies to love Christ and others. He gives us so much grace and His love never falters.
Let’s love our kids enough to teach them the way, truth and life; Jesus Christ.
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