Going Forward After You've Crashed & Burned
Dave Ramsey always says, "Success is a pile of failure that you are standing on."
There are not many people who know how many failed businesses I started a few years ago. I have an entrepreneurial spirit and wanted to start my own business as a stay-at-home-mama. I tried hand-making body products, wooden signs, screen print t-shirts, and so many other items. It was fun for a few weeks until the new wore off and I realized that it wasn't my passion. There are people out there who are passionate about those things and they are running successful business because they live for it. It was fun, but it wasn't what set my heart on fire or what I was truly passionate about.
After these attempts literally crashed and burned, I would feel so discouraged. I felt like a race car that crashed on the track and immediately went up in flames. It sounds dramatic but that is how it feels to fail sometimes. It is a bit embarrassing and makes you kind of want to hide under a rock for all of eternity. Or you are so scarred from the accident that you never try anything new again.
I started three blogs before The Cold Coffee & Cotton Stems Blog. I loved writing to encourage but I wasn't yet aware that it was my passion. It wasn't until I started working for a Christian newspaper that I realized writing was my passion. Specifically, writing to encourage others and to tell them about Jesus. When the newspaper ceased publication I knew God was saying it was time. Time to start another blog and stick to it because He showed me my talent and passion for writing and I needed to use it. I assumed it would crash and burn as I hadn't been successful in the past, but there was a difference this time. The difference was this: I realized writing rejuvenated and excited me and most importantly, it was a gift God wanted me to use. On a deeper level, when I write a blog post or I respond to a message someone has sent me about the hard time they are going through, I get fired up. I can't explain it. I just really love encouraging people to be who God created them to be.
Looking back, I am so glad all those business ideas and hobbies crashed and burned. Even the career paths I pursued that just didn't feel right. If those pursuits had not failed, I wouldn't be here realizing that I really love writing. I may not be Shakespeare or F. Scott Fitzgerald, but God has put a desire in my heart to write to reach people. To reach them and tell them about Him and to encourage them. So if you're debating on something you're wanting to start or try and are afraid it will crash and burn. Do it anyway. You will never know what your God given talents are unless you ask Him and try something.
Winston Churchill once said, "Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts."
Within a business or a dream or a goal there are always many smaller feats to accomplish. I personally have talked my self out of so many blog posts and ideas simply because I was afraid they would fail. Maybe you have talked yourself out of starting a business, following a dream, making a career change, having kids, getting married, or accepting Christ as your savior (this is the most important decision you need to make... ever). Don't hold yourself back any longer, friend!
You may crash and burn big time. Go ahead and accept the fact that life won't always go perfectly. We all fail. Failure can be a beautiful thing though as it teaches us how to persevere. We truly learn so much about ourselves and life when we fail. I used to be so scared of failing. I would accept failure as the final answer. Maybe you're accepting failure as your final answer too. You have to pick yourself back up and try again. It sounds cliché to say it but we do have to try again even if we've failed a thousand times before.
This doesn't just apply to your talents, career, and dreams. Maybe you feel like you have failed God or your family or both. Our Heavenly Father is always waiting for you to come home and let Him work in your heart. No matter how bad you've fallen or how far away from God you have wandered, He is still here. James 1:17 says, "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning."
The definition of variableness is: "Apt or liable to change; changeable."
Synonyms for the word include: Fickle, wavering, and fluctuating.
The verse above says, "With whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning. (James 1:17)"
God doesn't change and will always be there when you come back to Him. Even if you spiritually crashed and burned. Even when you feel like you won't ever get back to who you once were. If it makes you feel better, we've all been there!
This probably goes without saying, but I want to remind you of something today. I feel like you really need to hear it. You can make amends with a person you have hurt or been hurt by. You can get up from the wreckage of broken relationships and start again. You can do it. If someone completely wrecked their relationship with you and it wasn't your fault, you can still forgive them and go forward. Or if you wrecked a relationship with someone and really messed up you can go on too. You can make things right and pick up the pieces.
When our lives or dreams or efforts crash and burn it does come with injuries, but they are not fatal. We can always move on even when we have really deep scars from the failed attempts.
It is my prayer that you won't be scared to do something because of the fear of failure and that you would have the courage and willingness to move forward if you have failed at something or failed someone.
Praying for you always, friend!