I Truly Love Staying Home With My Kids And I Am Not Lazy
For the first few years of my motherhood journey, I thought it was wrong to love staying home with my kids. I was scared that people would judge me and think that I was lazy for not working outside of the home. (This was until I realized how much work motherhood actually was... we never have off days. 😉) I would beat myself up over sleeping in with my kids or not having the house perfectly clean at the end of the day. I reasoned that since I was home, I should be able to keep everything in perfect order and gave myself very little grace. I did these things because deep down I felt guilty for staying home as if that was the "easy route". I put high expectations on myself because, deep down, I was insecure about my worth as a stay-at-home-mom. To break it down further, I didn't think my job was very valuable.
That one hurts to admit but it is true. We have to call it what it is. I think a lot of moms (both working inside the home moms or working outside the home moms) don't see their worth. Raising children is important work as you and I are raising future generations. No matter what path you choose, or have already chosen, you don't need to let guilt eat away at you for trying to be the best mom you possibly can be. Raising children is tiring and you virtually spend years investing in your children all the while praying you're sowing good seed that you will reap later. It is a high calling and one we shouldn't take lightly whether we work inside or outside the home.
So I want you to let go of it, friend. The guilt...
I spent a lot of time in those first few years of motherhood thinking about my role as a mother, how important it was, and how I didn't need to feel guilty for choosing to be a stay-at-home-mom. My husband and I always agreed that it would be best for me to be home with our kids. I take great pride in my role as a mom and I am so grateful my husband works hard so that I can be home with our kids. It is certainly not something I take for granted.
The "lazy SAHM" stereotype that is far too often portrayed in media that includes pajamas all day, a destroyed house, and a mom hiding in the closet is not our reality and most likely not yours either. Sure, we all have crazy days where things go undone and everyone is crying by sundown (including the mom) but what those funny memes leave out is all of the good that happens within the walls of homes.
Playing dolls and building MagnaTile buildings.
Enjoying early morning couch snuggles with your morning coffee.
Going on adventures together and making memories.
Laughing and crying together.
Teaching a child how to read and write.
Preparing their one-hundred snacks and meals and watching them grow up before your very eyes.
Sleeping in when you're up all night with a sick kiddo.
Soaking up every second because before long they will be grown up and driving away from home to start their own life.
Every moment is a gift and I really love being a stay-at-home mom. Even when it is stressful and the walls feel like they are closing in around me, I am still grateful that I get to spend my days with my kiddos. I am sure you can relate and guess what? It is okay to love it and admit it.
So if you're feeling guilty for being a stay-at-home mom, I want to encourage you to focus on all of the good that goes on inside your home. Stop worrying that people perceive you as lazy because no one knows how hard motherhood is unless they've actually raised children. If you have made the choice to stay home with your kids then own it and don't let guilt steal your days. It might not be the right choice for everyone but if you feel it is the right choice for your family then that is what matters at the end of the day.
So from one stay-at-home mom to another, I see you, I don't think you're lazy, and I hope you pause today to reflect on how important your job is and how you're rocking it! 😉