As the old saying goes, "Behind every good man there is an incredible woman. (unknown)" I firmly believe this. We, as women, can be a great influence in the lives of our husbands. I want to encourage my guy to be all that he can be and to bring glory to God's name.
I am a wife to a wonderful man named Mason. If you've followed my blog for any length of time then you know that I talk about him. All. The. Time. He really is a special guy. I may not talk about every disagreement we have but I will always jump on any opportunity to brag on him! God definitely broke the mold when he made my husband. He is genuine, honest, hardworking, hilarious, and a truly remarkable person. When I prayed for my future spouse as a young girl, I never could have guessed that God would bless me with the spouse that I live with. It is incredible and if you're a young girl reading this, keep praying + waiting on your future mate. My man isn't perfect but he's really, really close to it. That is my story and I am sticking to it!
We have been married for nearly four years and I am still learning how to be a wife. I often laugh when I think about our first week together under the same roof. At that time, I could barely use a can opener. I had no clue how to be a homemaker. I grew up around some of the best cooks and homemakers to ever exist yet, I didn't take the time to pay attention to what they were doing. I could cook in the microwave but that was about it, people! My husband couldn't live off of frozen meals forever. It is so hilarious to think about that season but I am certainly glad that I have made progress. I think that there is always something new to learn in wifehood so I am sure I will be learning until I reach heaven one day. I fail a lot as a wife. I really do. I love my guy though with every fiber of my being. I hear him and see him and realize that he is incredibly unique. I want to celebrate that! I want to celebrate God-centered marriages in a society where the divorce rate is sky-rocketing each passing day!
Proverbs 31:10-1212 is my "wife motto" that keeps me accountable as it says, "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life."
That is the kind of wife I want to be.
When my husband makes a decision for our family; I stand by him.
When my husband speaks; I really want to listen.
When my husband expresses interest in pursuing his dreams; I help him make it happen.
When he's had a hard day; I give him time to unwind.
When he forgets his lunch in the fridge; I take time to take it to him.
When he asks me what I think about an issue we are facing; I pray over it with him.
When he messes up; I give him grace.
When he succeeds and fails; I am proud of him.
When he needs encouragement; I strive to be a positive voice in his life.
That is the kind of wife I want to be.
I am not a perfect wife. I don't always have a sweet tone or a respectful heart towards my husband. I get frustrated over little things. I snap at him when I am moody. However, I want to be a woman of God who respects and cherishes her man. He is worth it. Our marriage is worth it. I want to give my marriage 110%. I am a firm-believer that a God-centered marriage can be an incredible testimony to others. Our babies are watching us and I want them to see their parents completely and utterly in love with God and each other.
I hope this encourages you, as a wife, to sit down and decide what kind of wife you're going to be. Do you need encouragement as a couple? Coupled with God's word, I have several favorite marriage books linked here that you may like to read. It is my prayer that you will be passionate about your marriage and realize how precious the gift of marriage from our Creator is.
What kind of wife do you want to be, friend?