To The Girl Who's In A Funk
So if you're reading this then you're most likely in a funk. You know those weeks where you're struggling to concentrate and feel as if you're failing yourself and everyone around you.
These weeks are typically few and far between for me (thankfully) and I hope you can say the same! When I get in these moods it feels like time freezes and I am stuck for an unknown amount of time.
I don't like feeling stuck and I am sure you don't either!
A funk can be caused for many reasons and you have to figure out where your funk started in order to get yourself through the rough patch. I always picture myself walking through a large open field with silky green grass and getting stuck in the mud. That is how I feel when I am in a funk. The mud is thick and my feet just won't move forward even as I give it my all.
Maybe you're stuck in the mud right now. Your feet are dirty, wet, and cold. All you see as you gaze around the open field is beautiful green grass but you can't seem to get out of the mud and muck.
I think that those days, weeks or sometimes even months can be caused by anxiety/depression, an overloaded schedule, high-stress levels, lack of sleep, sickness, loss of vision (meaning the vision you have for your life, dreams, etc.), lack of fellowship with Christ, etc. Your off-week may be due to a different cause and only you can see what is causing your funk.
I have been in a funk the past few days. Not only have I been in a funk, but I have been driving my husband crazy with my anxiety-ridden worries and stresses. He is a saint y'all. I haven't been able to string words together easily or even focus on a blog project for more than twenty minutes. For some reason, I feel like I can't complete chores around the house and meals even seem tough for me. I get tired of being the organized gal sometimes. I won't lie. I love organization and a plan and structure but lately I haven't felt like doing those tasks. I know the root cause of my funk. I think it is important to get to the root of issues. Oftentimes, I ask God to give me wisdom and to point things out to me that I may not see. We have to dig down into the mud and uncover what the real issue is whether that be lack of sleep or an overbooked calendar. I imagine myself digging deep in the muck and uncovering my feet which are held by chains labeled, "Overbooked Calendar" or "Lack of Sleep".
I have been extra busy lately and overloading myself if I am being honest. Instead of making an early bedtime a priority, I have been staying up late and not wanting to get up before the kids because well, I am tired. We all had a cold that lasted for about a week so that didn't help my funk either as a person who hates to be physically sick in any capacity. I let my mind wander which is never a good idea as anxiety is quick to assure me that things are going to go wrong. God reminds me to keep my mind focused on Him.
Maybe you're in a funk and just need a little solidarity and encouragement!
I cling to 2 Timothy 1:7 which says,
"For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind."
It is normal. Funks come and go.
Here are a couple of questions I ask myself while going through a rough patch:
1. Have I overbooked my schedule? Do I have way too much going on in my life? What can I say, "NO" to?
2. Have I made rest a top priority? How many hours of sleep did I get last night?
3. Am I holding myself to an impossible standard?
4. Are the people I surround myself with life-giving or draining?
5. Do I fill my heart, mind and soul with God's word and His truth?
6. What does my diet look like? Is it well-rounded, healthy, and low-sugar?
7. Did I forget to take my vitamins this week?
8. How have I cared for myself emotionally lately?
9. Have I exercised?
10. Do I just need an off-day where I do something I really enjoy?
When we are in a funk for a few days it can feel overwhelming. We immediately start to panic and think that we need to do something drastic like cut our hair, change jobs, or hop on a plane to Mexico. I am kinda-sort-of-not-kidding... we do want to be out of the funk so desperately that we take matters into our own hands. Many, MANY times in the past I have made a drastic decision simply because I felt uncomfortable in an uncomfortable season of my life. Funny story: I almost accepted a job I didn't have time for a week or so ago and God very quickly impressed my heart to not accept it AND to be patient. There have also been times in the past I thought bangs were a good idea while going through a rough patch. HA! Don't. Do. It.
I always refer to the list above and try to pinpoint what is going on with me. There are seasons of drought (spiritually) and funks that directly correlate with your spiritual life. Any kind of loss, trauma, and/or grief can cause funks as well. It varies from person to person so hopefully you can figure your funk out soon!
A few activities I like to do to help myself move forward:
1. Dance in the kitchen-We will turn on our favorite love songs or kids songs and have a full-on dance party in our kitchen.
2. Go for a walk/run-I love burning off the anxiety by sweating to a workout or a good walk.
3. Sit in bed if you can and watch a movie.-Hallmark has cured many bad days for me. ;)
4. Take a day to just rest (if you can)-Take a personal development day and/or get a sitter and just spend a day resting.
5. Journal-This is so therapeutic to me and I know where you can get a really great journal. ;)
Sit down today and try to figure out where your funk started and know that I am praying for you, always!